About the Book

If we say that all humans must accept that most of them have found themselves at a crossroads or a junction at various times in their lives, where making a correct and wise decision has become difficult and challenging, it would not be an exaggeration. It does not matter whether this occurs in work-related, emotional, or educational matters; nonetheless, it will affect each of our lives. Undoubtedly, such situations serve as serious tests for individuals, and navigating through them is not an easy task.

Sometimes a person may think they can delay their decision and genuinely want to avoid the consequences of what they believe might happen to them. In other words, they wish to postpone their distress. However, the reality is that sooner or later, they must confront the truth. Beverly Stone, a highly experienced English psychotherapist and author of the book "Stay or Leave" uses her considerable experience and knowledge in this field to present very suitable solutions for the situations we have discussed to her readers. Stone, whose counseling for couples on emotional issues has always been well-known, has also provided valuable information about educational and career choices in her work, serving as an unparalleled guide for her audience.

Another point highlighted in the book is the effort to instill a sense of courage in men and women who are currently trapped in a difficult situation and have yet to see the other side of life, which is filled with opportunities. The author, with her English background, believes that indecision can ruin a person's life and has made every effort to convey to her readers that the only person who has the power to escape life's predicaments is themselves; they just need to take a little risk and not shy away from life's anxieties or surrender.

About the Author

Beverly Stone is an English psychotherapist and coach born in 1949. She holds a degree in applied psychology and a master's degree in human relations. She has held various positions, including Senior Associate at the Royal Medical Society, founder and CEO of the Business Psychologists Association and Dynamic International since 1989, and is also a member of the Association for the Support of Vulnerable Individuals. Another book she has published is titled "The Inner Warrior," which addresses the concept of change in companies and individuals. With over 25 years of experience in psychology, she is one of the most renowned figures who has significantly helped many people around the world improve their marital, educational, and career lives and continues to be active in this field.

Who Should Read This Book?

It is recommended for individuals who often experience doubt and hesitation at various stages of life, especially in critical areas, and rarely make decisive choices. To free themselves from indecisiveness, they should read Stone's highly beneficial work.

Book Quotes

David couldn't tell his parents that he was going to marry Jessica, who had a different religion. He was afraid to share such an important issue with his family, fearing that they would reject him forever. So, he decided to secretly marry Jessica, and only his friends knew about this marriage.

As a result, he refrained from having children due to this situation, as it would require him to constantly lie. Many times, David was tempted to talk about the events in his life with his parents, but the thought of their potential reaction prevented him from saying anything. Consequently, after his mother passed away and when he was nearly fifty years old, he confessed to this matter.

David's father's reaction surprised both of them. His father was happy and excited that David had found someone he loved, and he told him that if David's mother had been alive, she would have been happy too. He said that David's mother's only concern had been that he would marry a woman who loved him and have children with her. What a pity!... David's life had been wasted due to the disastrous thoughts he had.

Why is it so hard for you to change? Because choosing one thing means losing other things.

Fantasizing about disaster after making a decision does not help us at all. We all know how anxiety-inducing it is to make a definitive and irreversible decision. Since we don't exactly know what we will face afterward, we make things harder for ourselves and avoid making our final decision because of what I call "catastrophic fantasizing."

Are you also waiting in the waiting room of your life because you have succumbed to your fears? Are you facing the risk of not even reaching half of what you could be? You should no longer wait for a time when you feel secure enough to change or take any other action. That opportunity will never come, and with this false hope, you will already feel regret for your wasted life.

Only with a decisive choice can you learn, progress, and realize the potential of your life. The fear of losing what you have makes you convince yourself that things aren't that bad, but they really are.